The Love Movement
We are starting a movement, centered around love to help raise the vibration of this beautiful planet.
You can expect to hear casual conversations and interviews with some amazing people as we chat about many topics all centered around three main pillars:
Loving Yourself: Explore practical tips, personal stories, and scientific insights on self-love.
Loving Others: Hear inspiring stories of kindness, empathy, and connection. From random acts of love to deep friendships, we celebrate the beauty of human bonds
Loving the Planet: Dive into discussions about environmental consciousness, sustainable living, and our responsibility to care for our beautiful home. Discover how self love extends to nurturing the Earth and creating a more compassionate world.
Tune in to “The Love Movement” and be part of a global shift toward more love, understanding, and positive change.
The Love Movement
Ep 16: Aging with Grace: Love, Health, and Awareness
The stigma around aging is deeply rooted in our culture, yet the truth is that growing older is a privilege not afforded to everyone. In this candid conversation, Brian reflects on turning 42 while challenging the conventional narrative that aging means decline.
Brian offers a powerful analogy comparing our bodies to batteries: exercise might temporarily drain energy but ultimately increases capacity. "It's like having a bigger battery in your phone," he explains. "The quality of what goes in—food, movement, information—gets multiplied in your output." This multiplication effect means even small positive changes yield significant benefits in overall wellbeing.
What makes this conversation particularly valuable is its balance of philosophical wisdom and practical advice. For those feeling too busy or tired to exercise, Brian suggests starting with simple changes: take the stairs, park farther away, do quick exercises while cooking. "Movement is medicine," he emphasizes, noting it's never too late to begin. After 12 weeks of consistent effort, Britney shares how she transformed her health patterns that had persisted for years.
Beyond physical health, the discussion delves into mental awareness in our distraction-filled world. "We are unaware of ourselves, unaware of the actual real world because of all these distractions," Brian observes. Practices like meditation, breathwork, and simply being present in nature offer powerful antidotes to our constantly divided attention.
Whether you're approaching a milestone birthday or simply seeking a more intentional approach to life, this episode delivers profound insights on making peace with aging while maximizing your potential at every stage. What changes could you commit to for the next 12 weeks that might transform your relationship with your body, mind, and the passage of time?
you're listening to the love movement with your host, britney and brian johnston. We're starting a movement centered around love to help raise the vibration of this beautiful planet if that's your vibe, hang out with us as we chat about many topics all centered around three main pillars Loving yourself, loving each other and loving the planet. So if you're ready, let's jump in. Welcome back everybody. Episode 16. It's been a hot minute.
Speaker 2:It's been a really long time and I feel bad that it's been so long.
Speaker 1:I don't even really know why has it been so long? I guess we just haven't really set the time to do it. We're tired at night when our toddler doesn't sleep and we don't feel like hitting record at. You know 9.30 at night.
Speaker 1:No so we're back, though. It's been since Valentine's Day, since we did a podcast. That's like we're pushing three months here about. You know what? We're going to get more organized for the year of 2025. And today I'm excited to talk about well, brian. I'm going to interview him a little bit because he had a birthday yesterday, turned 42. It feels weird to say it does.
Speaker 2:We knew it was coming.
Speaker 1:And I feel like age, though, is such a weird thing, like the perception of age is messed up, because I don't know about you, but I remember my dad's 40th birthday. I would have been 13. It was a surprise backyard barbecue and I just thought he was so old. And I'm turning 40 this summer and I do not feel old.
Speaker 2:Well, if you watch like an old movie or like the movie or the sitcom Cheers. Well, if you watch like an old movie or like the movie or the sitcom Cheers, those people are in their 30s.
Speaker 1:Yeah, like in my brain they were 55. Yeah, it's so weird. Also, the other funny thing if my aunt is listening to this, she'll laugh. When I started my business, I was 21. And I remember my biggest objection being, oh, this type of business is for old, bored, retired people, and not that she was those things, but I kind of was also alluding that she was kind of getting there and like she was 40.
Speaker 2:Yeah, it is weird because I feel like our, the previous generation, didn't focus as much on like health and wellness as they do now and they just had this mindset around just getting old and it's just like oh, you're 40, you're over the hill, and it's like this whole thing well, it seems to be people's common answer, like to anything like happy birthday, yep.
Speaker 1:Getting older, it's like, but it's like awesome. Getting older, aging, it's a privilege yeah, so not afforded to everybody no and like somebody, yes.
Speaker 2:Somebody yesterday said happy birthday, old man. I was like old man, I'm like not even close.
Speaker 1:And it's funny because with you, I remember. I remember your 18th birthday. I remember you're wearing a yellow t-shirt with a silver chain and your brother would have been. How old uh, he would have been like 10 yeah, and so he was also wanting to be like you, and he was wearing a yellow t-shirt with a chain and I remember we went out for dinner probably to Bonanza Probably, but I remember being with you on your 18th birthday and when you add up 18 to 42, this is 25 birthdays I've had with you.
Speaker 2:Yeah.
Speaker 1:It's pretty wild.
Speaker 2:Yeah, it is.
Speaker 1:So for this episode we thought that we would just have Brian. He's kind of a little Pretty wild yeah, it is. So for this episode we thought that we would just have Brian. He's kind of a little I don't know wise, wise, quiet one over there and I figured you know what. Let's pass on some of the wisdom for our listeners and at the end of the day, we do this podcast for anybody that gets value. We want to spread more love into the world, but the core of it all we really want our son to have. You know this sort of information and the stuff that we talk about and the things that we think matters, and so you can even think about it as like giving Marty advice or something as he's yeah, he's too young to really take in advice right now.
Speaker 1:So I mean he's four, but anyways. So we're just gonna talk about that and I don't necessarily need to like number them, because I know you just have a lot to say on a lot of different topics when do you feel like you want to start, if you're going to start with like the best advice?
Speaker 2:It's really hard for me to get all my thoughts together, like I could probably take a week to prepare for something like this, so I just have to force them into it Because my mind goes a thousand different ways. So I just have a few things that I can kind of talk about in general. And, yeah, we could do like an extended podcast where I go like really really, really, really, really deep into some stuff. But we'll keep it simple today what's?
Speaker 2:the biggest thing. I think as we age we were talking about perception earlier I think the biggest thing is like our health and fitness and like, as I look at people that are older or even my age, they're like, oh, my body hurts or oh, I'm going to feel that tomorrow. Or you look at someone who is maybe a little bit older and they just look frail and it's because people don't use their bodies. Like we're not meant to sit around on the couch and watch TV or sit in an office or sit in a car all day. Like our bodies are meant to move, they're meant to be used, they're meant to be stressed, and I think just moving your body and having some like giving it resistance, that's like one of the biggest things and I think that's what keeps me feeling young and bouncy, like you were just on a hike just now and he's like how do I get you bouncy?
Speaker 2:I was like I don't know what you mean I just feel like I'm like springy, like I can boing around like a cartoon character when I'm out in the woods or anywhere, like I'm just, I'm just bouncy, because I'm just, I don't know.
Speaker 1:And I got a heavy foot. Apparently I'm working on it. I've lost 12 pounds in 12 weeks. Yeah, that's insane. Maybe that's why we have been on a podcast hiatus. I've been too focused on getting my steps in and eating properly working out. But it's true and honestly, like I'm better because I'm with you, because you are always. Just it's innate for you, like how focused you are on your health.
Speaker 2:It's just a habit that I've built and it's I made that part of kind of my identity is being strong and fit and capable of you know, doing strenuous things.
Speaker 1:And I think, maybe for me. I feel like I lost that identity when I had Marty.
Speaker 2:You're kind of forced to stop some of that right.
Speaker 1:I know. But at the same time, how long can you use your kid as an excuse? And so maybe that journey is for another episode, but I just feel like it's. I guess what is great about a marriage too is that you can each. You know, you were sort of always on that journey and I was on it, and then I got sort of sidetracked, having a baby, being postpartum and just really being not, not feeling good in my body and getting to a point where I was just sick and tired of being sick and tired and you know you would say like smart ass comments here and there, like I'd be like my core is so weak. You're like well, are you working on it every day? No, brian, I'm not working on it every day.
Speaker 1:And then I start personal training with our neighbor across the street and she's like, okay, every day I want you to do this, and it's like strengthening my core. And I was like, wow, my core is getting so strong. And you're like shocking when you work on it every day. And that was identity, is the first thing you know she had said to me was we're creating a new identity for you. You're a person who does this, who doesn't do this, and it took me a while to get to where now, 12 weeks later, I feel like that is now part of my identity. You know, and you just you've always been good at that.
Speaker 2:Well, it's just. It's how you build a habit in any area of your life. Is making the thing that you want to be a habit part of your identity? It's like we don't. We identify as non-drinkers now. So, like yesterday, we were out for birthday supper and I could have went and had a beer, so I liked having a beer on the patio, but that's not part of my identity, so I would feel when I even said that to you, I was like have a beer.
Speaker 2:Like I would feel out of integrity with myself if I did that, because it's not part of what I do anymore. And I'm going to Vegas tomorrow for a friend's 40th and I'm sitting here thinking maybe I will have cocktail and I was like no, I don't really want to Like, it's not same, it's not part of my identity. And the other thing I want to talk about is like comparing your body to a battery.
Speaker 1:Yeah, this is good.
Speaker 2:Yeah. So like people are like, oh, when I exercise, I feel so tired and drained, but what you're actually doing is you're increasing the capacity of your battery for later. It's like having a bigger battery in your phone, so it'll last longer. So, yeah, you might feel tired in the moment, but you've increased your capacity, and then it's the quality that goes in will make your battery last longer. So it's the quality of your food that you have, the quality of the exercise movement that you do, and then the quality of you know what's going in your ears, what you're listening to people surround yourself with. It's all that stuff.
Speaker 2:But the cool thing about when it goes, when all this stuff goes into your body, the quality of what you put in gets multiplied with your output. So you get more output and more quality output it's a great your body. Your body is like a multiplier of the quality that goes in.
Speaker 1:You get more output in quantity and quality that feels kind of deep for my brain right now.
Speaker 2:I don't know if the listeners feel that way, but I also feel like it's a great analogy so, yeah, when you're charging your battery, when you're putting in better food, you know, when you're listening, you know motivational stuff, that's charging your battery.
Speaker 1:Sleeping, sleeping is one of the biggest things when it comes to, uh like, overall health my aura ring that I got for christmas has been the best thing ever for me tracking my sleep, because I we're night owls, but you're also you we don't want to be, but you actually can't be if you want to get up early and trade like you do, and so this is our biggest thing is like we got to get to bed earlier and figure that out because it's so, it is so important and we underestimate it yeah, sleep.
Speaker 2:Sleep is like, um, like rejuvenating your body. That's like the recharge part of your battery. So there's all these factors that play into.
Speaker 1:I guess the overall you know well-being and everything of your life is you know, the amount of sleep, what goes into your body, and then the work that you make your body do well, and it's true, because remember a couple days when I do my personal training sessions every monday and I normally can hardly walk back across the street because I just feel like I'm a puddle of jello and I could fall onto the ground and remember that one day I was like I just had a huge nap on the couch. I was like why am I this tired? And you were like you just had a huge workout today, like yeah, that's happens.
Speaker 2:That's when your body repairs itself.
Speaker 1:Yeah, that's a good way to look at it, though, and what do you say to people who you know? They work a full-time job, they got kids, are chasing after, they got sports and all this, and they just really feel like I'm too tired to even move my body.
Speaker 2:That's it's, that's the will to want to up your capacity. It's like you have to fit things in during the day, like I'll do a little breathing exercise in the morning and some pushups and some sit-ups, and if I did anything during the day, that would be like the absolute minimum that I would do, and it took me what? Not even 10 minutes, yeah Right, but it's just what you do during the day. Are you using the stairs?
Speaker 1:Are you like? I'm sitting at the in the kitchen cooking supper doing like half raises?
Speaker 2:and like I'm just always doing something just to try to you're integrating it all the time.
Speaker 1:You guys, if you could see him, he'll like put his arm on the island and on the like by the sink on the counter and just like swing his legs up and down, just like hold his body, swing his legs like what is happening? Are you cooking or are we actually?
Speaker 2:I just try to make every part of my day something that's yeah, they're like giving me strength somehow.
Speaker 1:But it is true it's like always take the stairs, don't park close to the door, park at the back of the parking lot and walk.
Speaker 2:We talked about a lot of this in our fitness episode we did with Dan.
Speaker 1:Right, yeah, so fitness is everything, because I think as you age, it's like what else? Nothing else really matters as you age, if you don't have your health.
Speaker 2:Yeah, like I think to have the thought of being old and frail and not able to move and like being trapped in my body when I just want to like go out for a run and like a walk and like we've had we had people visiting us lately and we couldn't do half the things because they're not physically capable. And they're talking about they're comparing their stories of when they got their stints put in their heart and I'm like, oh my God, and the drugs that they're taking and you know, everyone's on all these drugs. I'm like like we watched a show last night and these people were in their like early fifties and they're at the pharmacy getting all these drugs and they're getting this medication, this one, and this one, this one.
Speaker 2:I'm like, oh my God, this is the norm is being on drugs. Your food is your medicine and your fitness is your medicine. Movement is medicine, and then the state of your mind is another factor that plays into that as well.
Speaker 1:There was a thing once someone had told me that the goal of pharmaceutical industry is to have people on five different medications by the time they're 50. That is the most disgusting fact I've ever heard.
Speaker 2:Yeah, it's sickening.
Speaker 1:I think we did mention that on another podcast.
Speaker 2:We did yeah.
Speaker 1:But health, yeah, it's everything, and moving your body if you don't feel.
Speaker 2:Yeah, people that are injured, like yeah, I have a back injury, I have a bald disc in my back. It hurts to get out of bed every morning. I could make that my excuse too, but I'd make it the reason why I'm always moving.
Speaker 1:Well, and it's even like you know, people say I would die for my kids, I would do anything for my kids, but would you live for them?
Speaker 2:Yeah.
Speaker 1:That's what this all kind of comes down to too, and I think, for us, something that I've said recently, just like on Instagram and stuff is you know, I'm going to be turning 40 with a four-year-old, I'll be 50 with a 14-year-old, and I'll be 60 with a 24-year-old, and right now I'm working out and getting strong and he's watching me do that and copying me in the gym, which is the cutest thing.
Speaker 2:So that I can that with him when he's 24. And there's no like it's not too late to start, no matter what age you are, you can you know. If you're feeling a little weak right now, you can turn that around in no time.
Speaker 1:Well, I think it's like starting with something simple Don't think you need to do all of it and don't think it needs to cost a lot of money, like it can literally all be free. Um, walking is free.
Speaker 2:Fasting is free. Everything is free. It's all fitness courses. Everything's on YouTube. You can ask chat, gpt for advice on anything.
Speaker 1:These days Walking is one of the most underrated things. There was some statistic I just went the other day about like what was it now If you walk three times a week for 45 minutes? I don't remember what the thing was, though.
Speaker 2:It's really good stuff. It's really good stuff.
Speaker 1:I feel like it had something to do with um, I don't know what I'm going to say, Cause I don't even know. I actually don't remember. I don't even remember where I saw that. That's the annoying part.
Speaker 2:We just know it's good.
Speaker 1:So just walk. Start with something simple increase your water, get walking, focus on your sleep. Those could be some simple things to just get you going if you're feeling like you're kind of stuck in a rut and knowing that it really is never too late to start. Actually, recently we've been inspired by a couple of our friends that are in their 50s that have been taking this health journey quite seriously, and people who my one friend, carrie, for example maybe we should get her on the podcast, talk about this, because she's who I remember.
Speaker 1:When I went to Good Life Fitness and I'd go to spin classes literally three times a week like clockwork never would miss it I convinced her to come with me. She bought a gym membership these ugly white runners from Walmart and I think she came to two spin classes in like the two or three years. She paid for a membership, yeah, and now she's just crushing it and she was part of the reason that inspired me to like get my shit together, basically, and it's like it's never too late. I just think that's such a great example.
Speaker 2:So anything else?
Speaker 1:on health.
Speaker 2:There's a lot. I mean experiment with supplements, different foods, subtract foods that are inflammatory from your life. See how you see how your body responds. That's one of the biggest things is just experiment with different things, different foods, and see what's optimal for you. Like try vegan, try doing more meat, try doing less meat. Like, just try everything. Everybody's different.
Speaker 1:Yeah, exactly. Okay. What would be another topic that you want to talk about?
Speaker 2:Well, I guess we're. We're talking about, you know, growing muscles and whatnot, and we could talk about just lifelong learning and growing. I remember I think we've talked about this before too but when you started um doing Arbonne, you said that, uh, you needed to read and I should read two or whatever. And all of a sudden I was like, okay, I'm going to read a book. And I picked up a book and this was after he said. I don't read. Yeah, I don't read Cause I'm a slow reader.
Speaker 1:I said you do read cause you graduated, you know, graduated, you know how to read. But I think what you're saying without saying is that you don't like reading or you're a slow reader. And I remember just saying, like let's just read 10 minutes before bed and I might read a book and it might take you three times longer, but eventually you'll read a book. If we're doing it for 10 minutes every night, yeah and yeah.
Speaker 2:So I do. I read a lot of personal growth stuff. I you know when helps with everything. It helps with life, it helps having conversations with people, it helps with relating to other people. It just expands your mind and when you're always learning something, it doesn't have to be personal growth stuff either. Like I read a lot of stuff about you know cool things happening in nature and space, and like scientific journal stuff. And just having your mind working like that all the time and actually using your brain for actual thought too, keeps your mind young. Like people do puzzles, people learn other languages. You can you know if you're right-handed, try brushing your teeth with your left hand or washing dishes with your left hand. Just like ambidextrous stuff. All these different things. When like ambidextrous stuff, all these different things. When we use our brain like that, it keeps our brain young, keeps new, like neural pathways being created.
Speaker 1:Cause. Don't you think we live in a world where we're like just so distracted?
Speaker 2:Well, that's one of the other things I want to talk about.
Speaker 1:Yeah, I won't get too far into it then.
Speaker 2:So yeah, just just just learning and growing continuously, and when you're always learning about personal growth, a lot of it's learning about relationships and how to relate to your partner or your kids or friends. There's so much out there to learn. The amount of knowledge is infinite, and that's the thing just building a habit of bringing in information. That might not be helpful in the moment, but it I don't know, it's just something you have you know, up in a conversation be like oh yeah, I read this one thing about so-and-so.
Speaker 1:Well, nick, because that's your most annoying thing is like having conversations that are literally like about politics or weather, or just things that are negative.
Speaker 2:Yeah, I don't. I usually just avoid the conversation or just yeah, because I don't like having negativity in my life like that, and politics is very divisive. It's all a distraction, which is another thing I want to talk about too. Okay, we'll keep going uh, so yeah, like awareness distraction there's with the phones and the news and media and the political drama out there and the political drama out there. We are so distracted from what really matters, we are unaware of ourselves.
Speaker 2:We are unaware of the actual real world and what it is, because there's all these distractions going on, like, for instance, going out in nature and being actually present?
Speaker 1:yeah, because how many times we walk in the woods and people have like music on.
Speaker 2:Yeah, well, today we were out there walking someone's bumping music through the woods. I'm like you're missing the point, bro. Listen to the birds. We can't be in nature and be actually present and like like some of the neatest memories I have are just sitting there and like watching bees or watching a bird or watching a river, like just that's being present yeah, we're in a super distracted world and like the awareness of your thoughts is another thing, because we have thoughts going on all day in our head.
Speaker 2:How much of those thoughts are on repeat from the day before and the day before and the day before, and that's like the person you become is like the thoughts that you have continuously, right. So when you're an awareness and you can realize, you step back like internally inside your mind and you become an awareness, being aware of what you're thinking um the actions you're doing, and you can catch yourself doing things that you're like oh, why do I do that? It's almost like becoming like an objective third party to yourself, because you're you're not your thoughts, you're not even your body. Like if I cut my pinky off, is that pinky still my body? No, it's not. We're not our body.
Speaker 2:Um, it's kind of getting a little off topic, but it just being aware of everything going on, which is kind of a. It's like if we're looking for happiness, we're looking for outside things, right. When we're looking for happiness, we're looking for outside things, right. When we're looking for peace, we go inside and then we understand ourselves more. And when you understand yourself more, that's when you become more at peace. You understand the world. More you can understand others, more you can be more compassionate. It's just easier to get along in the world when you understand yourself more.
Speaker 2:And going inside for a lot of people I think is really scary because, I heard someone say they they don't want to go inside because they don't want to be alone with their thoughts.
Speaker 1:It's like wow but a lot of people probably feel like that yeah and I feel like I never give myself time to be alone with my thoughts because I'm so distracted all the time with all the incoming messages and incoming, you know, people that need me, and then being a mom and being a wife and like having a business, it's, it's literally so overwhelming sometimes, Like I don't know how to shut it off. I mean, you're going to force me to start doing breath work.
Speaker 2:Well for me breath work has been one of the most pivotal things to keep my mind on track, to feel like more centered, and I have that, you know, 20, 30 minutes where I'm going inward with my thoughts, being aware of what I'm thinking. But I'm also doing because I'm doing an act of breathing, I'm concentrating on the breath, so there isn't a lot of room when you're breathing for, you know, distracting thoughts right but then when you're done, you do a little.
Speaker 2:It might be like a five minute meditation, so it's kind of like a two-in-one well, even the other night I went I had a bath.
Speaker 1:I just was like I don't even want my phone in here, like I just you put music on, yeah, on the stereo but it's like because I could be having a bath or doing something else, and but I'm also on my phone checking messages and I'm also over here. It's like I'm never stopping. So again like being your wife, it's like, oh God, it makes you realize how much I'm not doing. The things that you do that keep you centered and that make me just like feel like I could explode sometimes.
Speaker 2:And that's just the, the awareness of looking at myself inward and like, okay, well, I'm feeling like this today. I'm you know, this is how I'm feeling, this is my output. What was I doing when I was feeling really good? Oh, I was doing breath work. Get back to that. Maybe it's not breath work for you, maybe it's uh, maybe it is meditation, I don't know. There's a lot of different modalities like that that help people, but it's like a nervous nervous system reset I think a lot of things too.
Speaker 1:for me that when I do implement them, it's like go for a walk and, like you say, be present on my walk because I can have an ear button, I can listen to podcasts, I can do a coaching call, I can talk to a person, someone on the phone. You get in your car, you call somebody. It's like we're never stopping to be with our own thoughts. So maybe having more like awareness walks and also like having a bath with no distractions, shutting off your phones and your screen and all of the things, at least an hour before bed.
Speaker 2:Yeah.
Speaker 1:It's, it can be little things that can make such a big difference. Because I know before, when I was kind of in the groove, like I would not be on my phone before bed and I would not look at my phone until I did the things for me in the morning, like journaling and reading a couple pages of a book, you know, sitting on the patio in the sun drinking fizz or whatever you're drinking in the morning and feeling the sun and like yeah, yeah, stopping to be present, because if we don't, we're just distracted by this world of distraction.
Speaker 2:Like when we can't live in the past, we can't live in the future. We're always, we're always chasing something. We're chasing that happiness, right, I was just talking about, because that thing is always out there and we're we're trying to live in the future and get that thing and then we'll be happy. But we don't live there. We live in the present and it's important to manifest and take time to think about your dreams and your goals and get in the feeling of what you want. But you do have to come back and live in this moment and be actually present, because it's the only place you live. And live in this moment and be actually present Because it's the only time you have, it's the only place you live.
Speaker 1:Well, even when you told me to have a bath the other night, it was like I feel guilty having a bath because there is so many other things I should or could be doing. Yeah, but at 9.30 at night, when I'm in a mood, you knew that, like you don't need to go do anything, you need to go have a bath.
Speaker 2:Yeah, listened to you and then I felt so much better like why do I do that?
Speaker 1:you're just in your own head. Oh my gosh, you guys. I hope this is resonating with people because I can't be the only one that does this.
Speaker 2:I don't know yeah, I don't know. There's a lot of things you talk about um building relationships is important. Um, I guess it goes with like learning and growing and you know keeping your mind young.
Speaker 2:That was another thing I want to talk about. I guess we talked with, like learning and growing and, you know, keeping your mind young. That was another thing I want to talk about. I guess we talked about that a little bit. Um, I don't know. Just yeah, meditation, meditation is important. Being with yourself is, I think, one of the last few years. Going inward and doing the meditation and even with the psychedelic stuff that I've done, it's expanded my mind to a point where I just view the world completely different. Um, I can relate to other people more. I just relate to everything around me, more it's more of a I don't know it's life is easier.
Speaker 1:When I think the world, like I said, it's full of distractions and there's sort of all these like what I look when this is actually through.
Speaker 1:My first psychedelic experience was like this whole world is a game and there's all these traps in the world which is buying into politics, religion, drugs, consumerism consumerism all the things that are trying to get our attention, and most people it does get our attention, and so when you become aware, like you said, and you go inward, it's like that's what changes us, which will change the world, because we have to focus on love, and we can't do that if we're never looking inward word, yeah.
Speaker 2:And when you're focused, when you're like love centered, when you go out in the world and you, you know, have positive interactions with people throughout the day, like those little things actually do change the world but you don't know what an action you might do for someone, how it can ripple in ways you might never see it, yeah, but it'd just be a positive force.
Speaker 1:I actually had a girl walk up to me that that event last weekend and she goes.
Speaker 1:I just had to tell you something, but along I don't remember what it was. She came to a first event and she goes. You were there at the door, welcoming everybody. You just made me feel so welcome and I just wanted to know, like you always made me feel like that and I thought I would have never known. That's how she felt, but it's like smiling at people, welcoming them, making them feel like they are present. You always say everybody has an invisible sign on their forehead that says make me feel important. And I think we all need that, whether it's passing somebody on the trail, like we did that today when we were hiking. Have a little conversation, smile, say, have a great hike, like versus just walking past each other and not even acknowledging each other's existence. Like it you, when people don't kind of respond and I'm just like calm down like you're not doing it to get a response do it for the good of doing it, you know.
Speaker 1:But it's like, why is the world like that? Like why, you know, we got past a lot of teenagers. They won't even look up at you or talk, they're just down in their devices.
Speaker 2:I feel like muhammad ghani's quote like be the change you want to see in the world is like the most truest thing ever.
Speaker 1:And that quote too, like the thing you're least avoiding. Maybe it's the inner work or the working out is the thing that holds the greatest amount of opportunity. Yeah, because we do. We avoid the things that we probably need to do the most.
Speaker 2:And what was the other thing? Oh, like, as a kid, you know how you're always worried about, like, what everyone's thinking of you and you're judging everyone else in their clothes and and whatever. Kids are so, so cruel. And just looking back, like, yeah that I grew up had those same experiences. But looking back, that's a completely different me, totally, than it is now. But there's people our age that haven't grown past that because they haven't done any work at all and they're still in that same frame of mind.
Speaker 1:When people think age means wisdom, it doesn't always.
Speaker 2:No, age doesn't mean wisdom.
Speaker 1:There's people that are grown that are still just as immature as someone in high school and I think too, that's what like becoming doing the growth journey and kind of getting into your 40s like this. It's like you just care so much less what people think, and that in itself is such a freeing thing you care more about leaving a positive impact on people than what they think.
Speaker 1:And even my fitness journey, like it's not about. Of course, I want to look good look, you know, good in a bathing suit or feel better in my clothes, but that's not the motivation for me right now anymore, and it used to always be like. Now, truly, the motivation is picturing our son as a 24 year old, when I'm 60 and I want to be able to move my body. I have scoliosis. I could let that be my excuse, but instead it's again like you said, it's my, it's our reason to move our body.
Speaker 2:Yeah, do it for, do it for others.
Speaker 1:You always said that quote by Jim Rohn I'll take care of me for you and you take care of you for me. That's why I think in partnerships it's so important that you look after each other for each other.
Speaker 2:I want to grow old with you, you see a lot of couples and there's an extreme going on in both directions. One can be super fit and the other one can be super fat. It's like, well, how's that working out?
Speaker 1:Yeah, anything else I was going to do rapid fire. Are you ready for that or not yet?
Speaker 2:Yeah, we can. We can go there, Okay. So I want to know what are four things in the year of 42 that you want to do less of? Um, I was doing this at one point and I got to get back to it Just eating less at night, so have your supper and be done.
Speaker 1:I don't sleep as good when I have something I'd be done.
Speaker 2:Digest two hours before. I don't sleep as good when I have something before I go to bed. I like that. Less social media. I don't do a lot, but you know you can open your phone up and all of a sudden you're like looking up some dumb shit, right, totally.
Speaker 1:Such a waste of time. It's like I love hate social media.
Speaker 2:And then it's like you know, a minute later you're like you snap out of it and you're like, oh, my eyes feel weird. I feel like I'm just like I got this weird energy about me and I don't like that. That energy. It's like it's been drained into the phone. It's. It's a sucking life, sucking energy. I don't like it yeah, totally so less of that, uh, less sugar, because I'm very athletic, I feel like my body's just like a carb machine and I probably eat too much sugar at times so less of that and less time worrying about stuff do you worry about stuff I don't know.
Speaker 2:I worry about stuff, yeah, but it's not. It doesn't help with anything when you worry, because 85 of the shit you worry about never happened I just thought I was the worrier of the relationship well, you definitely are I guess that doesn't mean you don't worry okay well, it's just like anything.
Speaker 2:You see, I guess this can go back to stuff before you're doing these just for rapid fire questions, but they're letting things pass through you and not, uh, not letting things bother you. So maybe not worrying about just not letting things bother you, like whatever you see going on in traffic or in politics, like this year on the we just had an election here in canada and I just didn't get sucked into all that energy and you know so-and-so was elected. I'm like whatever who cares?
Speaker 2:But in the past I was like oh no, this is the worst thing ever, oh, this is great, or whatever. You know what I mean. I'm just like it is what it is. I'm not letting anything take my energy in those directions and whatever happens to me out in the world.
Speaker 1:Not because of a politician.
Speaker 2:Well that, but everything out in the world, whether you're at the grocery store or you see something out in the news or someone cuts you off, whatever, you just have to let it pass through you and not get that energy stuck in you. That's when you can be at peace, when those hard things they pass through you and you're just like whatever.
Speaker 1:It is what it is.
Speaker 2:You have nothing to worry about. Life just is life.
Speaker 1:Well, it's not like you know. You're not voting or you're not caring about the politics. You just don't let the politics control you, yeah.
Speaker 2:Because, like it's me, I control my outcome in life, not whoever we vote for. Yeah, it's me. I control my outcome in life, not whoever we vote for. Yeah, I think that's huge, huge lesson. The hardest thing is, when you have a toddler is always pushing your buttons to let that go. That's a. That's a real test. That is a real test. And I think when you have, if you don't have a kid and you haven't had that, you're missing out on a whole portion of your growth.
Speaker 1:I would. I would agree Honestly, man. It makes you grow in ways you yeah, you wouldn't otherwise Like. So I guess if you're somebody who's choosing to not have kids, that's maybe you're missing out on a good thing. Maybe life's a little easier. It's all worth it, but yeah, it's definitely interesting. What are four things you want to do more of in your 42nd year?
Speaker 2:We're talking about sleep, so going to bed earlier.
Speaker 1:Yes.
Speaker 2:Definitely. I'm always like okay, it's nine o'clock and get ready for bed, and then I blink and I'm like shit, it's 1130. What just happened? I was just getting ready for bed. We're so bad.
Speaker 1:And also we're the couple who goes. We like to go to bed together, yeah.
Speaker 2:A lot of couples don't do that? I guess no. But I've put some protocols in place to make it easier for me to go to bed without you. So I've got earbuds now that I can sleep with on my side. So if you're not going to bed yet, I'll put my eye mask on, put those on, crawl in and then half the time I don't even know you're getting into bed like an hour or two later, yeah, so I'm not gonna be a victim there. That's right. That's what I tell you, but I still like it when we go to bed together.
Speaker 2:Uh, the other thing is just um more time with friends, yeah, I like being alone a lot, but it is also to be around great people. So some more time with friends. Um, more meditations and manifesting, like I spend, like I said, a lot of my time doing breath work, but I don't spend a lot of time doing an actual meditation or the you know, manifesting stuff that I really want to do or I'm thinking about my future all the time. Um, so a little bit more of that, and then also more compliments for my beautiful wife.
Speaker 2:Oh, I'll take compliments so I'll just send some more love and compliments your way.
Speaker 1:Okay, I like that I'm like I don't remember my full um love, but I do think words of affirmation is up there and you're a guy who likes to be in your thoughts a lot. That's good awareness for you. I love it, cause your compliments do mean a lot for sure.
Speaker 2:Yeah, and it's you know. Another thing we talk about is communication. I had to work a lot on my communication because I am in such an inside thought kind of guy, so speaking my words has been. It's been hard. The podcast has been great for it, though.
Speaker 1:It really has. And yeah, I just spoke and then it was like talking to a brick wall and I would talk to him. It's like hello, knock, knock Anybody home.
Speaker 2:And I'm like just hang on.
Speaker 1:I need like 20 minutes to process this one thought no, you need a lunar cycle because you're a reflector.
Speaker 2:Yeah, I'll get back to you on that later.
Speaker 1:Oh my God, so funny. Okay, that's it, you guys, 35 minutes of Brian's wisdom of turning 42.
Speaker 2:So, yeah, aging is, I think, a gift that we're given. It's not something that we need to fear. We just need to embrace it, because we can't stop it. We can slow it down and always be youthful, you know, as much as possible, but where we are going to age, just be okay with it.
Speaker 1:Be excited for every other year you get to celebrate.
Speaker 2:Yeah, for real Like 42,. I do not feel 42 at all. How old do you feel? I probably feel like 30, maybe.
Speaker 1:Yeah, and my aura watch or ring says that I'm eight years younger than I am. I'm like 32.
Speaker 2:Nice work.
Speaker 1:You know, I think age is just a weird perception and it's just a number. It's so much more about how you feel.
Speaker 2:Yep, you see 40 year olds that look 50 or 60, and you see 40 year olds that look like 30. Totally.
Speaker 1:Yeah.
Speaker 2:It's all based on how you've treated your body, mostly.
Speaker 1:I think the biggest lesson is not, if you're listening to this, to feel like shame around.
Speaker 2:No, don't feel shame.
Speaker 1:There's no right or wrong, it just but just also know like tomorrow can be day one, like I just think I suffered, even with my journey for years since I had marty he's four and I started this. I just thought I'm gonna commit to 12 weeks, I'm gonna get help, I'm gonna follow something that I wouldn't want to do on my own. I don't have the kind of self-discipline like you do, especially not at this point in my life anyway, and I just think like that was only 12 weeks and why did I sit and suffer for so long when in 12 weeks I could just do that? So think about when you're listening to this, like what if you committed to something for for the next 12 weeks? Even if it was just going to bed earlier and walking, it could be something so simple that you feel so good doing and keeping those promises to yourself. There's nobody better than yourself to keep promises to.
Speaker 2:Yeah and guys, 40 to 50 pushups at least once a day.
Speaker 1:Okay, there you go, tangible.
Speaker 2:Yeah, do that Tangible Easy. That's like one of the biggest metrics of health for a man. Can you do 40 push-ups in a row without stopping?
Speaker 1:okay. So there you go. If you're a man listening to this, you get your count on with those push-ups, okay. Well, thanks for listening everybody and thanks, brian, for everything you had to share today my pleasure.
Speaker 2:Stay awesome. Everybody talk to you next time, peace.